This blog gives you a taste of some of the important
information that was not shared with me about childbirth and labour. Such as…
I didn’t know…
1.
That people were really telling me the truth
and were not exaggerating when they said ‘You will know the difference between
Braxton Hicks contractions and the real thing’.
2.
I knew that labour pains would hurt but I didn’t
realise they would feel like a 30 stone body builder stamping on and squeezing
your womb!
3.
How many decibels my voice reached when the real
labour pains kicked in but I know I was loud. Poor neighbours!
4.
How much I would want to do something really bad
to the midwife who told me to go home because my contractions were only 7
minutes apart!
5.
That it could take 4 days to go from being 1
centimetre dilated to full dilation! That 4 days of excruciating pain!
6.
I could go from having regular contractions
whilst in labour to having none in two hours. It’s not always textbook.
7.
How long the ground floor corridor of City
Hospital was until I walked the full length in a bid to progress my labour. I
felt like I was in the movie the Poltergeist when the corridor wouldn’t come to
an end. When I did get there, it was like a whole new galaxy - it was bright, light
and airy. There’s a restaurant, gardens,
I’m sure I spotted a few UFOs too.
8.
How great it would feel to have warm water
streaming down my legs, knowing it wasn’t pee. I was on the hospital bed when
my waters broke and for a few seconds, I felt like I was in a luxury pool located
in a plush spa in Ko Samui.
9.
That the doctors could feel how much hair my
baby had on her head before she was born.
10.
Until afterwards, that my mum and my aunt (who
also happened to be my midwife in the hospital) found my facial contortions
hilarious. So much so that they showed me what I was doing after the birth!
11.
I would have a tired anaesthetist put the
epidural in the wrong place in my back which meant that I could have been
easily overdosed. Which I was – twice! The first time my blood pressure went
down and so did my baby’s heart rate. The second time, I had so much of the
medical concoction in my system that my airways started to shut down! This was
one of the most scary moments of my childbirth experience.
12.
That you could be pushing for an hour and a half
and there would still be no baby. Instead you hear calls for a caesarean.
13.
Connected to the last point, I feel I can now
understand and relate to drug addicts when they get their ‘fix’. As soon as I
heard the word ‘caesarean’ all I could think about was getting that spinal
injection that would take away all the pain! And it did!
14.
The doctors who performed the caesarean would be
telling each other jokes and listening
to music on the radio whilst they did it.
15.
That during the caesarean operation (even though
the doctors put a screen in front of you so you can’t see their actions) if you
focus on the metal light fittings above you can see the reflection of ‘stuff’.
I could see lots of ‘red’ but I was so dosed up, I didn’t have a care in the
world!
16.
The first time I heard my baby cry from behind
the curtain, that it would lead my tear ducts to start acting up and releasing
water.
17.
The first time I saw my baby I would think ‘She’s
cute but she looks like a Japanese Sumo wrestler’.
18.
How naturally motherhood would come to me,
seconds after holding my beautiful baby.
19.
How grateful I would feel to my aunt and the
rest of the medical team for bringing my baby safely into this world.
20.
That I would instantly fall deeper in love with
my partner in the moments we first spent time together with our baby.
21.
I didn’t know I could get so damned sappy!
22.
When I recalled the awful days many moons ago
when I lost a child at 5 months pregnant, when I thought back to the harrowing
days of sickness, when I looked back at
my pregnant swollen face and my out of shape body I would think ‘My baby was
truly worth all of it!’
It’s now 12 weeks after giving birth to our
beautiful, healthy baby Jasmine and day by day I realise more and more what
people have been telling me over the years: there is no greater gift than
motherhood. Thank God I have been blessed with the honour of being my baby’s
mother.